Death according to Lazarus...

It is ok to BE in love. Falling in love is not a good thing. When you fall you are out of control, you are reaching out, looking for something to steady yourself. When you fall you always fall down, never "up". When you fall you drop under the force of gravity, to a lower place through loss or lack of support. When you fall you become less or lower. You fall apart. So try not to slip and fall into love.